Today's post isn't going to be as happy and upbeat as my last one, unfortunately. But please do read it! I'm hoping it may be helpful to quite a bit of people.
Today's topic is about the unwelcoming idea of middle school, or junior high as some call it. I am currently about to graduate from middle school and enter the scary world known as high school. This post is for those of you entering middle school or even just having a hard time academically or even socially. As one who has experienced it all first hand, I'm hoping this post will help make your experience a little better, if not amazing. ;)
First of all, I'm going to let you know I wont be 'sugarcoating' anything here. And some of the situations I talk about may seem too crazy to actually happen, but the truth is, they do. I'm not saying that you will experience everything I talk about, but I know for a fact some people do.
Tip #1 : Getting Good Grades
Know, you may be thinking "Pft! I'm a straight A student, there is nothing for me to worry about!" I want to let you all know that, yes, I am that straight A student who hands in all there work on time. And for those of you who are like me in that way, I'm going to let you know the truth. Don't walk in there and make sure everybody knows that you got a 100% on a math quiz everyone else failed. This isn't elementary school anymore. To be completely honest, no one wants to be the 'smart' kid in middle school. If you make that kind of reputation for yourself, you're in trouble. You will most likely be seen as a goody-two-shoe's, teacher's pet, etc., etc. It's okay to be that kid who does get straight A's, just don't be cocky about it. It's okay to share with you're friends, but the entire grade doesn't need to know.
For those of you who are the opposite of what I just described, here's my advice:
Try your best. If you studied for an hour every night before a big test and still fail it, make sure you talk to you're teacher. As embarrassing as it may be for you, you will thank yourself in the long run. If you're teacher says you can't retake the test, ask about extra credit. If that isn't an option, see if you can either find a tutor or if the teacher is available before or after school. If your teacher is, maybe he/she can give you extra worksheets so you can practice what you have learned, etc. Trust me, you'll have your name on the honor roll in no time! ;D
Tip #2 : Friend Drama :(
As sad as it may be to think your current best friends aren't going to be by you're side for ever, it's the truth. Everyone at some point in there lives deals with this. If you can survive middle school without having a fallout with your friends, that is absolutely amazing and very, very unlikely.
Here's how to deal with certain scenarios that you may go through.
You're friend isn't talking to you as much. She seems to be 'drifting' away from you.
Even though this may seem small, it often can lead to huge problems if not fixed immediately. My advice would be to give her a call or text and ask her if everything is okay. If she says she's fine, just let her know how you feel. If she's really you're friend, she will apologize and things will get better right away. If she does apologize but nothing changes, my best advice would be to find some new people to hang out with. It may be hard, but just be yourself. If she does say that somethings bothering her, listen and be a good friend. If things are hard at home, let her know that you're always here for her or that she's free to come over any time she needs to.
My friends are really starting to bug me. I don't want to hang out with them anymore.
Everyone is going to feel this way at some point. Everyone needs their space at some point. If you think your friends will understand, tell them that you really need your own space and can't go to the movies this weekend. You may actually realize that all it takes is a little time to yourself to want to hang out with them. If your still annoyed, you may want to try to 'step out' of the group. It's not going to be easy, and they may be mad, but try to make it discreet. You may want to start siting somewhere else at lunch/during class every know and then. If you're friends ask why, either tell them the truth or make up an excuse. Eventually, you wont have to deal with them at all.
I don't have anyone to sit with at lunch.
Been there, done that. Ask a teacher if you can stay in there room at lunch. If they ask why, but don't feel like sharing you're problem, tell them you need time to do homework because you're busy outside of school. It's a simple thing that will make school so much easier. Trust me. I rarely eat in the cafeteria for the same reason. However, some people seemed to have the same problem with me and eat in the classroom as well. I've a bunch of new friends and am so much happier!
Tip #3 : The Bad Stuff
Been there, done that. Ask a teacher if you can stay in there room at lunch. If they ask why, but don't feel like sharing you're problem, tell them you need time to do homework because you're busy outside of school. It's a simple thing that will make school so much easier. Trust me. I rarely eat in the cafeteria for the same reason. However, some people seemed to have the same problem with me and eat in the classroom as well. I've a bunch of new friends and am so much happier!
Tip #3 : The Bad Stuff
Welcome to middle school. This is where drugs, alcohol and smoking become a problem. Stay away from all of it. Even if all the 'cool' kids are doing it, don't. Do you really want to get expelled because you hid drugs into your locker? Do you want to get expelled for smuggling alcohol to lunch? Do you want to be arrested? I don't know why people do some of these things, but it happens. There are girls who are going to send 'pictures' to people and are going to get to serious with guys too fast. My best advice is to just stay away from it all. If a friend is struggling with anything I mentioned, tell an adult. "But I don't want to be a 'tattle tail'." Good point. But do you want you're friend to risk their health because you wouldn't help them? I don't think so.
That's all I have for today guys. I hope that this helped at least on person. If it helped you, comment a ' :) ' for me. If you have anymore questions that weren't answered I would love to answer them for you. Just comment them below! Have a wonderful day/night! <3
Simply,
Kate
P.S. I wanted to let you all know that I won't be posting everyday. I'll try to post once or twice a week, more if I can. I'm a busy person! :)
